Friday, September 23, 2011

Review & Giveaway: Rebecca St. James' book "What Is He Thinking??"

A few days ago, I got a slim paperback book in the mail. Even though there were chores to do and tomatoes to can, I found myself sneaking away to my favorite chair to read just a few more pages. The more I read, the more I thought, "I wish I had this book when I was going through my late teens and early twenties!"

I already thought that Rebecca St. James was pretty amazing. I love her music, and saw her in a movie on a Christian TV station a few months ago. She's won a Grammy Award. She's won Dove Awards. She was voted "Best Female Artist of the Year" from several years in a row. She even played a character on a Veggie Tales DVD! (LOL, sometimes it's the little things that impress me!) When I heard that she was writing a book to help young women through the turbulent times of dating and finding the man God has intended for them, I knew I wanted to read it!

Product Description

In WHAT IS HE THINKING??, Rebecca interviews a range of men from high-profile types to the guys next door, men that every woman can relate to. Although the interviews focus on single guys ages 20-35, Rebecca also includes words of wisdom from older mentors she respects who have been successfully married for years, such as her dad, life coach, and pastor.

The men share their thoughts on topics like how women can respect themselves and the men in their lives, modesty, purity, taking it slow, friendship, letting guys lead, and more. This book gives them the floor to say what they would really like women to know.

The men respond candidly to questions like:
  • What is the most attractive quality to you in a woman?
  • Is modesty truly attractive?
  • Is neediness a turn-off?
  • What do you find beautiful?
  • How can we be dependent on God for our identity, not on you?
  • How can we help you with boundaries physically?
Rebecca also discusses her own dating life, speaking openly about the single life, her struggle with loneliness, and her hope for the future. She challenges women to see the men in their lives as brothers in Christ and to trust God with their dating lives.

This book is just filled with down-to-earth, sound advice. As I said before, I wish I had read it when I was 21 years old, watching my friends pair off during college, and feeling so hopeless and alone because I wasn't pretty enough, thin enough, or outgoing enough for the guys to like me as anything more than a "Sister in Christ." Rebecca uses a great blend of honesty, humor and wisdom to help young women turn their focus from a frantic search for "Mr. Right" to a peaceful trust that the loving Father who wants them best for His children will meet their needs, including a need for a life-mate. 

There are lists compiled by young men (what appeals to them, what they consider turn-offs), suggestions for dates, and delightful stories of dates gone wrong. Rebecca interviewed older men, like her father, who have had years of experience with marriage to share their wisdom also. Each chapter ends with a summary of "takeaway points" from that chapter, which was very helpful.

One chapter deals with modesty and boundaries. I felt that was very much needed in today's society. When it seems like everyone else is wearing provocative clothing, it can be tempting for a Christian young lady to "go with the flow" and dress the same way as her non-Christian friends. 

I would highly recommend this book for all young women - I would love to see it in our church library, or being used as a discussion guide for a girls' Bible study. 

For more about this book, you can visit the book's Facebook Page

The Giveaway! 
I have the chance to give away a copy of Rebecca's book "What is He Thinking??" to one of my readers. There are two ways to enter: 

1. By leaving a comment below (leave your e-mail address if it doesn't show up in your Google profile, so I can contact the winner)

2. Or, if you would rather not post your e-mail on a public blog, you can send me an e-mail at - with the subject line "RSJ Book"

Giveaway ends on Monday, October 10th at 11:59 PM. Limited to U.S. residents only, age 13 and up. Limit one entry per person per day. 

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mentioned above for free in the hope that I would mention it on my blog. Regardless, I
only recommend products or services I use personally and believe will be good for my readers.
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"Guides Concerning the Use of Endorsements and Testimonials in Advertising." 


  1. I heard Rebecca speak at Kingdom Bound 2011. She and her husband made their purity rings part of their wedding ceremony. I thought that was really cool, since Matt and Melissa plan to also make them part of their ceremony. She is an outstanding example to our young women!

  2. Would love to read a copy of this.